Yoni Mapping Therapy

There many benefits of internal therapeutic pelvic massage – which is now becoming more popular in many different fields. Osteopaths, physiotherapists and pelvic floor specialists do internal massage for pelvic health and alignment.

Just as with general massage, there are many benefits of receiving internal massage:

• Access to ligaments that can only be touched from the inside.

• Release of muscle tension that traditional external massage cannot get to.

• Restoration of pelvic organ alignment and balance thus supporting a woman’s pelvic wellness.

• Relaxing of pelvic floor muscles allowing effective engagement

• Shifting patterns of ‘compensation’ where specific parts are overworking due to ineffective engagement or held tension in other areas

In our culture, many women are disconnected from their whole pelvic region – mostly due to trauma of some kind, and/or shame.

Trauma, often expressed in the body as tension and experienced by a woman as pain or numbness, can arise from something as simple as having sex without being aroused enough, to something as complex as a difficult birth or sexual abuse/violation.

Underneath the glossy, modern sexual landscape we live in, many of us struggle to understand ourselves as sexual beings.

It is rare to meet a woman who truly KNOWS her vagina well.

Massaging and mapping internally allows a woman to meet her yoni. To discover her own creative power source, this part that has often only been experienced as problematic or bothersome (periods), or ‘for’ the purpose of another’s pleasure, or for procreation.

We don’t receive adequate education about our own basic anatomy and sexuality. In fact, we are often given the wrong information – which leaves us confused and unclear.

That’s why having an experienced practitioner gently guide you through an area that may be wildly unfamiliar can be a total revelation.

Internal mapping can give a woman the capacity to answer questions like:

• Where do I disconnect from feeling?

• Where is there pain and numbness?

• Is that area still tender from the operation?

• What areas feel nice?

• What feels relaxing and peaceful?

• How is my pelvic floor?

• Is there much tension in there?

• What does my cervix feel like?

• Where is my A-spot anyway?

Because Yoni Mapping sessions involve whole body massage, it can give a woman the felt experience that her Yoni is connected to the rest of her body – which often brings a deep sense of wholeness.

A session also creates the space for a woman to simply receive. Nothing is expected of her, she doesn’t need to perform in any way, she can just relax and discover herself.

It sounds so simple, but it’s something few women have ever experienced.

After receiving this kind of session, women often come away with a sense of clarity about what they want in their lives – and what is no longer acceptable.

This could mean being more discerning about who we allow to enter our bodies.

Or desiring to treat our bodies better.

Choosing to have longer foreplay because it feels amazing.

Or taking more time to self-pleasure and explore with curiosity.

Carving out more time for self care practices.

Or taking the leap with that big project.

It’s an empowering embodied experience that can help you feel who you are on a deeper level.

It’s about coming home to yourself.

Yeehahhhh!

Yes! – most clients will feel some nerves before a session, which is completely natural. Usually afterwards they’ll be surprised how “normal” and “not weird” the whole thing felt!

I’m super focused on creating a safe and comfortable space for the sessions and making it feel fun and interesting. NOTHING is forced or pressured, and you are empowered to set your own boundaries in the session.

I work with informed consent and clear communication throughout and you are fully respected in the experience.

As Yoni Mapping Therapist Practitioners we do not (and cannot) claim that Yoni Mapping Therapy treats, prevents or cures any medical or psychological ailment.

All clients have different experiences from their sessions. Many of our clients have experienced Yoni Mapping Therapy as being beneficial for their overall wellbeing.

Many clients have also experienced a marked improvement in, or resolution of, their specific issue.

Many clients do report that they have noticed improvements or feeling more empowered in areas such as mental health, emotional healing from past experiences, energy levels, libido, body image, stress levels, body connection, intimacy with a partner, awareness of pleasure, motivation for self care and capacity to assert clear boundaries around their body and sexuality.

Having said that, Yoni Mapping Therapy is not about ‘solving’ or ‘fixing’ anything, it’s about connecting with your body, educating and empowering you.

“Once you approach your body as a relationship to discover rather than a problem to fix, you start thinking in a whole new way.” – Jena La Flamme

Yoni Mapping Therapy is not currently right for you if:

• You are in the FIRST trimester of pregnancy – we work with clients after 12 weeks.

• You are pregnant and have a history of miscarriage or premature birth – just to be on the extra safe side!

• You have JUST given birth recently – please wait until at least 6 weeks postpartum before a session.

• You have JUST had an operation in the abdominal or pelvic area – please wait at least 6 weeks before a session to give your body a chance to heal.

• You are CURRENTLY in a state of trauma – this modality is not beneficial if you are in a distressed and unstable mental state. Please seek appropriate support if this is the case.

• You are under the age of 18 – we are unable to offer sessions to those under 18.

Yes, if it’s safe to have sex, then it’s safe to have a gentle massage (although we don’t work with pregnant people who have a history of premature birth or miscarriage – just to be sure!).

Sex can press on the cervix quite consistently, and in this bodywork for pregnant women we don’t focus on the cervix at all.

The way I work with pregnant client is soft and gentle – there’s nothing sudden or intense in any way. The internal pelvic work is intentionally slow and relaxing and I don’t press anywhere near the baby.

Massage is a great way to prepare for the birth, especially stretching around the perineum to make space for the baby and prevent the likelihood of tearing or episiotomy – which is something that many midwives and birthworkers do!

I also work specifically with internal ligaments that can have a positive impact on the baby’s passage through the birth canal.

Many clients just come for one session – and one session alone can be very beneficial.

However, often the challenges clients are coming to me with are complex and multifaceted, sometimes spanning their whole lives or presenting as intergenerational trauma patterns.

These issues don’t have a simple or quick fix. There’s no magic bullet solution and these things can’t be worked through or overcome in a single session!

That’s just unrealistic, I’m afraid.

Therefore I love working with people on an ongoing basis for multiple sessions OR pairing YMT sessions with my coaching journeys or online course to get the most out of the work together.

Coming for follow up sessions is an amazing experience because you get to see progress over time and go deeper each session, taking home the practices to do as homeplay and moving through different processes in the sessions while being supported along the way by me on your journey.

If you do choose to have more than one session, I recommend scheduling sessions 3- 6 weeks apart for maximum benefit.
This gives time to let the dust settle and for integration of what we've covered in a session.

Upon your return, you will have had time to practice the homeplay and see how things begin to change for you.

You also might have further questions to ask or more specific things you'd like to learn about or work on together.

Try to schedule your session at a time when you’re unlikely to have your period, it’s much more comfortable for you that way.

However, if it does happen that you begin menstruating not long before a session, please contact me to discuss whether you're feeling up to coming for your session still or not. Menstrual blood certainly doesn't bother me!

However you may be feeling energetically more internal, fragile, or physically uncomfortable as a result of your period, and that might mean it is best to postpone.

But if you’re comfortable then I’m not fussed if you come while on your period.

Haha, don’t worry!

Even though it seems pretty out there, Yoni Mapping Therapy is far from woo-woo.

I'm committed to making this experience feel comfortable, tangible, and educational.

I'm not pushing any spiritual beliefs on anyone – it’s all about exploring what’s happening in your body.

Many clients have commented on my down-to-earth approach and the tangible, relatable nature of the way I work.

I meet you where you’re at and tailor the session to you, so if you’re not into the woo, then I can work with that!

‘Yoni Massage’ is a term used by many different people to mean many different things.

Some people may offer Yoni Massage as a gentle pelvic healing massage, which can be quite a beautiful experience.

Others may use the name ‘Yoni Massage’, but it also involves coaching and whole body massage (which is great too!)

Still others may offer a sexual service that is called ‘Yoni Massage’ that involves erotic massage and a focus on orgasm.

For other practitioners it’s related to the spiritual path of Tantra.

Basically all we know for sure about ‘Yoni Massage’ is that there’s some kind of massage of the vagina – because all practitioners work differently.

So if you’ve been looking into Yoni Massage – check in with your practitioner about exactly what they’re offering so you’re totally clear.

Some Yoni Massage therapists have done different kinds of training, others are self taught. There are some incredible practitioners out there and there are some practitioners to be careful of.

It is an unregulated field and therefore does hold some level of risk.

When choosing a practitioner, it’s important that it feels right to you. If you’re uncertain you could arrange a phone chat with them to find out more.

‘Yoni Mapping Therapy – The Bliss Method’ – is a specific registered modality taught only to a select few women as a holistic approach to women’s pelvic wellness.

It is registered as a modality by the IICT. Practitioners have completed a rigorous 6 month intensive training program and are held to a high standard of therapy. There is a code of conduct that we abide by, and sessions always follow a certain structure.

The focus is not on trying to give you a ‘pleasurable experience’ – but meeting you where you are, and offering you tools and approaches to bring into your daily life to deepen your connection with your pelvic region and your Yoni.

We acknowledge and welcome all aspects of humans – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and sexual.

It is by no means a sexual service, but a 3 hour journey of exploration and learning about your unique body and pelvic region.

Please be aware that as this modality gains in popularity, others may use the same or a similar name (Yoni Mapping Therapy) but may not have any official training.

The focus of these sessions isn’t to make you orgasm and the aim isn’t all about pleasure or a “happy ending”.

It is relatively rare for orgasm to occur during one of my sessions since we are not trying for that, however sometimes pleasure can of course happen and this is totally okay.

While orgasm isn’t the goal because I prefer to take a non-goal oriented approach to orgasm and sexuality in general, if orgasm or pleasure begins to build in a session, it is completely okay.

It’s up to you whether we continue and you relax into it and enjoy the sensations, or whether we move the focus away from that to make sure you feel safe and comfortable.

I’ll be checking in and making sure you are feeling in control and consenting to whatever happens so that you have the experience that will be most beneficial and nurturing for you.

It is very rare that orgasms happen in sessions so if you’re worried about feeling embarrassed or ashamed, awkward or guilty, don’t stress!

If it’s not something you’re cool with, chances are your body isn’t going to let that happen anyway.

My clients find that the sessions are generally more on the educational, therapeutic and nurturing side, rather than the erotic or sensual side of things. They use terms like “empowering”, “fascinating”, “relaxing” and “informative” to describe their experiences afterwards.